Whether you’re considering moving across town or across the country, moving can be a scary process. Your every day go-to places will change – the post office, the grocery store, the pharmacy. You’ll have to learn new routes, new destinations, new restaurants, and new people. The things you don’t have to think twice about, you’ll have to Waze or Google Maps. It is a big world and changing something as small as your address can seem like a scary thing to do.
Well, I’m here to tell you that it is so worth it. The small things that may seem like an inconvenience for a couple of months will be things you don’t even think about or remember a few months down the line. Stepping up to the plate and making the choice to put yourself in the face of fear, asking yourself to be bold, is how you continue to grow in this life. Boldness and uncomfortableness is what life is all about, and moving can bring up some of those feelings right to the surface.
The good news is, everyone is fearful when it comes to changing the “easy” things about your life – if you’re not, you’re probably a sociopath. And since you’re reading this, I can say confidently you are not that. Fear and anxiety remain the growing pain of the soul, at any stage of life. If you’re not feeling fear, you’re not growing.
How can you face this fear, pick up your life, and move it?
- Acknowledge the fear. If you try to ignore it, it will only get worse. Jim Carrey once said, “So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach, so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it.” If you are dreaming of a new life for yourself, start to believe it is already happening. If you can, start looking around town for places to live – where will your stuff stay, sure, but also, where will you get your prescriptions and groceries? Looking for the intangible places will help you imagine your life there.
- Make an action plan. Do you need to sell your house to be able to move? Tell your landlord? Whatever it is, sit down and write down what needs to happen to make your move a reality. Some of them, like telling your landlord, may be as easy as sending an email. Others, like breaking the news to your roommate that you won’t be there anymore, may require a bit more courage. Write them all down so you can start crossing them off your list one by one.
- Make a future list. Write down all of the things that you want to happen in your life once you move, as if they’re already real. Things like “my commute is 10 minutes shorter” and “my friends come over for happy hour once a month” will help you envision what it’s like to live in your new home. Writing down what your new future looks like as if it’s already happening will help push you to make it happen. It makes living in a sea of moving boxes feel more temporary.
- Ask for help. Honestly, this is the one I struggle with the most. Asking for help from neighbors and friends is something I am not used to, so I have to constantly remind myself that no one lives in a vortex and life is about connection. Studies have shown that most people feel more attached and connected to you when you ask them for help. So if only to deepen your connection with the people around you, ask them for help! Maybe they know a realtor or a great group of people in the area you’re moving. Maybe they are champions at organizing moving boxes or carrying them down to the truck. Offer some beer and pizza and make a party out of it! Moving is an adventure and everyone on the planet knows the struggles. My closest friend came from her asking for help moving, so put yourself out there and ask your friends! You never know what connections you’ll make.
Most importantly though guys, have fun. Moving is a heck of an adventure and you will open your life up to so many new and great things. Congratulations! Yay!